Teaching your child to fail

Why is it so hard for us as parents to watch our children fail? It’s antithetical to the whole parenting enterprise, isn’t it? We work hard for years to ensure that our children have the tools to succeed. It’s heartbreaking for us when they experience hurt, fear, and sadness. We want to rush in and pick them up and set them back on their feet. But here is the crux of the matter: We need to step back and allow ourselves to be vulnerable too to fail at protecting our children from their feelings.

Parenting in the real world

Imagine your child is throwing an epic tantrum in the grocery store. You’re in line at the checkout counter, and he or she is demanding candy. The person ahead of you is taking forever, and people are beginning to stare. See if you can make this scenario real in your mind. Are you thinking, “How do I make this stop?” Are you wondering what other people are thinking? I want to share a simple practice for dealing with situations like this one that make parenting enormously stressful.

The myth of the Supermom: letting go of perfection and embracing “good enough”

I am not a perfect mother. I am not Supermom. I cannot do everything right for my daughter. I can’t always be the best spouse to my husband. And I cannot be the perfect career woman. Simply put, I’ve abandoned the myth of the Supermom, and I feel so much better. You can too.