Alone time vs. couple time – learning to strike a healthy balance

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness… Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.” – Khalil Gibran, The Prophet Anaya and Calvin have been living together for two years. Anaya often…

Sharing responsibilities: is there an equitable solution?

When we begin a new romantic relationship, the electricity, magic, and euphoria can lead us to make decisions quickly – meet the parents, move in together, get a pet, have children, buy a house, and so on. We rarely take an objective look at our partner’s personality patterns, how they manage stress, how they handle…

Beating the odds: key predictors of successful relationships

According to the American Psychological Association, 40-50 percent of marriages today end in divorce. The reasons for these dismal statistics are varied, but the good news is that with commitment and work, couples can beat the odds. One of the most highly respected, extensively researched approaches to couples counseling is the Gottman Method. Through decades of research, the Gottmans discovered that there are certain factors, or key predictors, that contribute to the success or failure of a relationship.